Selfie, 4/22

It’s been a while since I updated this blog, and I really miss it! I could spend a few minutes sharing all the excuses and reasons that I haven’t posted since February (oops), but you wouldn’t read it anyway, so let’s move on.

I have a few backlogs of thought explosions, and so, I thought it best to focus on one at a time. So, here we go for today: An Opinion on Opinions.

Recently, I’ve come to realize that many people like sharing their opinions (okay, that’s a lie, that’s something that I have always noticed). However, what I really have noticed is that many individuals, often cloaked under the guise of over-exaggerated analogies (I am looking at you, “Abusive Partner” story that’d going around) are becoming more insistent that somehow, their extreme, emotion-based rants will somehow change the minds of the opposing view.

For them, and for everyone – that’s not how it works. At all.

Society thrives with a diversity of thought. We move ahead, together, when we stop and LISTEN. But LISTENING requires conversations, not one-sided rants and an unwillingness to understand where someone is coming from.

Often, the problem that many find ourselves in – especially on the Internet – is that we frequent spaces that quickly become echo chambers. We bounce our ideas off of people we are confident will agree with us, and that can be dangerous. I am definitely guilty of this! The first step in moving past these pockets, however, is to go beyond expressing thought beyond gut-feelings, and share real-life examples, and even better, fact-based evidence to support the topics we express.

It’s easy to attack an idea, but when we share our humanity, I believe we can reach a point where we can step back and think: wait, maybe this person has a point, and maybe, we can do something about it to make it better.

For me, this was proven to me in my recent reading of Aubrey Gordon’s “What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat.” I am an avid listener of Gordon’s “Maintenance Phase” podcast, and was eager to hear more from her on a topic I admittedly knew very little about. Listening (I read via the audiobook, checked out from my local library) to her stories, presented with scientific studies, real-life anecdotes, and an objective voice that was both confident and compelling, I was often uncomfortable, outside of my knowledge base, and, as the chapters unfolded, open to receiving that message.

In this life, there will be things we do not understand, but it’s our responsibility to educate and better ourselves. We will be wrong sometimes, but that willingness to listen will make the difference.

Side note: I’ve also learned, and have been actively practicing this lesson: it’s not our job to debate every bold statement we see or hear. Emotional health is important. Choose your battles.

Until next time (and a lighter topic),


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